Society pushes us to get married. The us I am referring to is single women.
It’s 2010! Women shouldn’t be made to feel like they have to do anything. Yet everything pushes us to be married. Disagree? Just look around. I’m right trust me. Parents, church, media, friends, and on and on…
Here’s a new one, according to the Brits, being single can be very depressing on the pocket book.
Those who live by themselves spend $382,275 more on basic essentials over a lifetime than those who live with a partner – and they are less happy for it, research suggests.
Bachelors and spinsters – or ‘freemales’ as single women are now often called – might wish to reconsider the price of going it alone.
Single people $18,358 per year on expenses such as housing costs and food. This is almost $7,649 more than spent by those living as part of a couple.
Almost 2/3 of couples say they are better off as a couple while 1/5 of singles think they have the better deal. Source
No need to get depressed my fellow “freemales.” Reasons for being in a relationship are different for everyone. Some women’s sole goal in life is to get married and have children. Others aren’t as laser focused when it comes to companionship. Some marry for stability first, love second. Others won’t even consider marriage if love isn’t the biggest part of the equation. And EVERYONE is on their own schedule. I repeat:
Everyone is on their own schedule with their own plan…
That’s why these studies are more about propping people up and tearing people down. If you aren’t happy being single, this just makes you feel like a loser spinster. Married and unhappy, well then this study makes you feel like your life could be worse, you could be single. Blah blah blah.
I love a lot of things about being single. And over the last seven years,
…I have admittedly become the “Single girl poster child.”
Why? Two reasons:
- So I stand strong admittedly at times out of defiance, so that any single woman can know it is okay to go through life for a little while or forever single. Pretty sure women fought for that right. I choose to embrace it.
- I’m a control freak. Relationships are anything but controllable. I can’t stand it. It makes me uneasy queasy. Some call me a commitment-phobe. That can’t be farther from the truth. I just am over putting myself out there for any guy.
Admittedly, I have gone to the extreme, and I am dialing it down. Not because of the pressure or the surveys, but because if I do embrace options. So I won’t close the door to the option of marriage. And if you are pressuring someone, looking down on someone, etc for their relationship status, please dial it down as well…seriously I have stories, but I think you know who you are.
…Everyone is on their own schedule with their own plan
Thank goodness I don’t take British surveys seriously.
P.S Since this is my soap box, if you are pressuring, take a moment and consider two things:
1. Your pressuring looks like judgment…if it looks like a duck…
2. Consider why you care so much. It is probably a reflection on how you feel about your life.