‘Off Limits’ Guys- As in Stay Away
by roxanne on 08/26/09 at 6:55 am
So Marie Claire magazine released a list of guys who should be totally off-limits, when it comes to dating. Disclaimer – when you read my take, remember that I have dated a lot of duds. After all, I am 30!
Okay here goes:
- Your neighbor. Sure, it’s convenient dating someone in your building or neighborhood, but if it goes down the tubes, it can be majorly awkward.
Against my better judgment, I did this a few years ago. Bad idea! It went sour and I he started dating someone immediately (and I do mean immediately if not during)! As life would have it, I would run into him and his new girlfriend all the time in the the lobby. Even though I knew he was not for me, it was so painful to watch. Sure I have seen it work for some of my neighbors, but if it doesn’t you are in for a world of hurt.
- Your dentist. C’mon, your dentist knows how many cavities you have — totally unromantic! And what happens if you break up? You’ll have to find a new dentist!
- Your shrink. It’s bad news when the person who’s supposed to help you figure out all your drama is the person who’s making new drama in your life!
- Your co-worker. Think carefully before dating a co-worker. He’s someone you’ll have to see just about every day and you’ll have to act professional in front of each other during work hours, even if you break up.
Stink! I have done this one two…twice! Like any break-up it is awkward when you see somone, and you have to see them every day. That said the first time I broke this rule, we did become friends after time. Good friends actually. The second time? Well, the awkwardness has passed, but we will have to wait and see about the friend thing…ha ha ha
- Your fellow gym member. Dating someone you met at the gym can be awkward unless you really don’t mind him seeing you sweating in your stinky workout clothes and you don’t mind changing gyms if the relationship goes sour.
Allow me to add to this list:
- The guy in your church group! I know people like to meet at church. However this has gone wronf for me TOO. Double stink! Here is the deal. If it works then there is no debate as to where the wedding ceremony is held. If it doesn’t, it can just be a big bummer. And believe it or not, one of you may be making a switch. I actually left my small group after breaking up with a guy. I did not want to be in a weekly setting with him where we were talking about our personal lives. I just didn’t feel like he had the right to know about me after all that happened.
Ultimately the awkward moments all happened with guys who were slouches or weren’t right for me. I guess I mean to say that the rules were meant to be broken if you pick a good one. If there is any chance of them being a rotten apple, then follow the ‘off-limits’ rules above.
Will I break the rules again? ha ha Probably!
What rules would you add to the list of “off-limit” guys?
Somehow I’ve never broken these rules and yet I’m still totally unsuccessful. Oh well, answering why THAT is would take a 50-part series on your blog. 
August 26 at 12:48pm · Delete
