Here’s the required ingredient for the Single Girl Slump:
You are single, so you don’t have that guy next to you boosting you up on a bad day. So you are feeling bad and then you remember that no one is there to share your misery and you feel worse! STINK! (Let’s just hope at this point your mom doesn’t start asking you when she is going to get her grandbabies…)
Well as much as I dislike going through the Single Girl Slump, I must admit that I took stock as I as going through my latest one. I have a feel for how to cure the Single Girl Slump:
(1) DON’T go out if you are feeling the Single Girl Slump Grumps.
I made this mistake BIG time. I knew I was in the Slump but still accepted an invitation to hang with some girlfriends on a Friday night. I figured spending time with ‘my girls,’ and talking through some of my stuff would make me feel better.
Well plans changed, the night that was supposed to be three friends hanging out and talking turned into a group of six, two of which I met that night. It was a D-Saster. I wanted bonding and I got superficiality. By the time I got home, I my Slump was a big Dump the size of the Grand Canyon. And I was mad at my girls! Why would they push such a foul (remember I was already in the dumps) night? (More on friends in #4)
I cut my hair last week. A lot led up to it, but ultimately I did it to slap myself–You know shake things up a bit.
Follow this train of thought though. I didn’t cut my hair to be visible to others, but rather I cut it for me. Regardless of anyone else’s response, after I cut my hair I was shocked everytime I walked past a mirror. I was reminded personally that I was not invisible and that the slump, dumps, grumps, are temporary.
Throughout my slump, I kept my perspective on who I was. I knew that this was just a bad season, and it would pass. Sure I wasn’t feeling great about myself, but I never lost sight of the big dog upstairs…
And the fog I had been sitting in started to clear. It was the last piece of the “Single Girl Slumps Be Gone” pie that I had been munching on.
So you are just about out the Slumps eh? Awesome. But before you skip off and forget about it:
I’m grateful for Meghan, and for the timing of it all. Towards the end of my Slump, I just happened to be: participating in the Lakeway Parade (see below) with my good friends Jaime and co.; attending a wedding celebration between two people I adore; spending time with my dad and nephew who live out of town (see below).
I am grateful for ALL of these gifts and more. Oh and one more that I must mention… flirting. I hadn’t intentionally flirted in a while. I did this weekend, and the guy intentionally reciprocated the flirtation. Whoo hoo! Yes! This Single Girl is not only out of her Slump, but ‘I’ve still got it!’
Not that I am looking or anything…